The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed
- Publish Date: 2016-08-23
- Binding: Paperback
- Author: Jessica Lahey
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In the tradition of Paul ToughâsÂ How Children SucceedÂ and Wendy MogelâsÂ The Blessing of a Skinned Knee,Â this groundbreaking manifesto focuses on the critical school years when parents must learn to allow their children to experience the disappointment and frustration that occur from lifeâs inevitable problems so that they can grow up to be successful, resilient, and self-reliant adults.
Modern parenting is defined by an unprecedented level of overprotectiveness: parents who rush to school at the whim of a phone call to deliver forgotten assignments, who challenge teachers on report card disappointments, mastermind childrenâs friendships, and interfere on the playing field. As teacher and writer Jessica Lahey explains, even though these parents see themselves as being highly responsive to their childrenâs well being, they arenât giving them the chance to experience failureâor the opportunity to learn to solve their own problems.
Overparenting has the potential to ruin a childâs confidence and undermine their education, Lahey reminds us. Teachers donât just teach reading, writing, and arithmetic. They teach responsibility, organization, manners, restraint, and foresightâimportant life skills children carry with them long after they leave the classroom.
Providing a path toward solutions, Lahey lays out a blueprint with targeted advice for handling homework, report cards, social dynamics, and sports. Most importantly, she sets forth a plan to help parents learn to step back and embrace their childrenâs failures. Hard-hitting yet warm and wise,Â The Gift of FailureÂ is essential reading for parents, educators, and psychologists nationwide who want to help children succeed.